The tantra retreat proposes an environment where you can improve the intimacy with your partner and it helps to rediscover your sexuality from a tantric point of view: expand your consciousness, expand your energy,  connect with your being and share your presence and love.

Actually, we can affirm that Tantra brings meditation to everyday life which can mean that there is no Tantra without Meditation. If you are already a practitioner and have attended a tantric retreat, you will know what I am talking about.

Performing this type of activity is somewhat delicate because the sexual part is frequently touched, and it is precisely in sexuality where the deepest wounds of the human being are present. This is due to the repression that for many centuries people has suffered from sexuality, being vetoed socially by religions and dogmatisms, making it something taboo and forbidden.

Should we undress? Are the lessons in public? Do you look at other couples in action? If you ever heard of tantric retreats, you probably asked yourself all these things. The truth is that, far away? From partying connotations, exhibitionist impulses and swinger exchanges, these encounters are increasingly popular in the world and propose to approach the more conscious and integral dimension of sex.

The first tantric retreats began to appear in the West during the 1960s, in England and the United States, when the hippie movement discovered that it was necessary to connect with another type of sensitivity. Thus, the practices of meditation and self-knowledge flourished in search of love and inner peace to make a world without wars. These “new” disciplines soon revealed other ways to connect sexually and there were also facilitators that guided you to explore them.

Who am I going to meet?

Generally, the average age range of those attending residential workshops is between 35 and 60 years. The majority are 30-year-old yogis who want to share their practice with their partner. But there is also the most veteran, who seek an intimate reconnection after many years of relationship (although it is not recommended, and even advised against approaching the retreats in the hope of resolving deep conflicts).

For all, the requirement is to have a good internal tuning and then open to the other in a sincere way. Starting from calm and respect is necessary for the good not only of our partner but of the others who attend the workshops.

What am I going to learn?

Dynamic meditations: You work with the body in motion through dances, drums, and classes of a specific yoga which is tantra yoga which is not so widespread , which activates sexual energy. The idea of all this is to account for areas of the body of which we have no record. Through these lessons, little by little one begins to understand (and feel) how the circulation of vital energy works and the erotic-sexual sensations of the genital area are decentralized, to extend them to the whole body. The objective is to open each pore to the sensory and turn our corporality into a large erogenous zone.

Conscious breaths: An indispensable function to the ability to  work in the state of presence that tantra proposes. Exercises are performed to consciously connect with the energy of the other.

Tools for the link: At a couple’s level, a retreat could redefine what unites them, where they are from, and bring them closer to another level of depth and connection.

What kind of exercises will I do?

Polar asanas (postures) are quite common, a variation of yoga that is done in two and intimately links the bodies. They are polar because they complement the masculine and feminine energies in each pair, stimulating certain aptitudes. However, each retreat has its exercises defined by the facilitators. For example, in Massages for the Soul (see section) they propose the “Sacred Labyrinth”, where each couple travels, in complete silence, 700 meters through a yantra, a sacred drawing embodied with stones on the floor. It is a metaphor that seeks to revalue the route over arrival. 

Upon leaving the maze, the members of the couple are invited to put their hands on a stone to ask for something that has to do with them. None reveals his secret to the other. Then, they return along the same circular path. Maybe read as this sounds half pulled from the hair, but each dynamic is done within a context of awareness and experimentation, in which it is key that one turns off prejudice and connects with innocence.

Am I going to have to undress?

Not necessarily. In retreats for insiders, there are almost no explicitly sexual practices. As we tell you, there are body works, skills, and connections, maybe massages, but nothing that blushes you too much. Once that level is exceeded, the exercises can be more compromised if you want. 

Advanced withdrawals are only available to those who passed through the first levels and are ready to explore what follows. And what follows are retreats in which tantra Nidra is practiced, a state of meditation in which penetration or physical union through intimate contact is the gateway to a state of shared ecstasy. But it doesn’t mean that you and your partner are going to be having sex in the garden. 

The union is made through the maithuna (sacred intercourse) in a large room, through a very intimate position, with the woman sitting on top of the man because it is precisely the woman who takes the reins of rhythm, which helps the man to regulate. When this exercise is done, each couple is at a considerable distance, on their blanket and performing their intimate meditation. In any case, neither penetration nor nudity is exclusive requirements, the union of bodies (or even a sustained gaze) is more than enough to meet.

How should I prepare?

Ideally, both you and your partner can begin by practicing yoga to learn the pranayamas (breaths) and work on flexibility and focus on the posture. You can even practice at home on how to turn sexual drive (“let’s do it now”) into a taste of the moment (“let’s take our time”), in which the goal is not orgasm, but the sensuality of the journey.

Although it is not mandatory, because one can also arrive without knowing anything at all; The ideal is to know in advance what it is to withdraw from the outside world to dive inside. In short, the trip is two-way, but those who arrive at the destination dissolve the duality and feel one.