Healing Vaginal Pain With Tantra

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Which I call Holistic you might call it buddy mindful therapy so not just the body treated but the mines and also. So it's kind of acknowledge the best whenever we have some kind of pain or stress. and so after having specialize in this I went on study Tibetan Tundra with you baby and first and foremost for my own sake cuz I realized that in my work as a therapist I came across more and more women and stomach who had history of sexual trauma and I realized that since this area of my last was not healed because I've been exposed to sexual trauma myself I wasn't able to be a surface for them in those cases so I realized I I need to feed my now and then I can pay the other so that was the period of learning and growing and then that has allowed me to to be of service in areas where I was trying to background in terms of what I've studied and now I'm working in that clinic where I stand and we try to together help women who have these conditions of pain in the vulva or vagina so it's like a vagina no pain or vulvar pain there's a lot of different diagnosis that's kind of fit into that category so it can be a pain that is quite new and acute and it can be paying that has his hands or being kind of become chronic that's been there for months or even years it might be isolated to just the intro or the vagina opening or it may be old but inside some women also experience pain in the lower abdomen or even in the lower back into conjunction with pain in the vulva or vagina the pain might be there at old time even when walking sitting or if it's not that bad it's pain maybe during only insertion of Pantone or during sexual intercourse some women old to experience that they have burning sensation when they're peeing as if it was a urinary tract infection which make many most patients and family doctors confuse it with urinary tract infections and then they often gets the wrong diagnosis and get something I don't have meaning antibiotic maybe several times before they're actually comes to someone who can give vaginal pain and and urethra pain vagina opening on the inner labia on the outer labia but I find most of the women that come to me for treatment they have pain just very near the vagina opening and on the internal labia could like a woman can go through her whole life and not experience vaginal pain and then all the sudden start experiencing its kind of case what causes that what to do to determine what is actual cost to do with us I need to talk a little bit about paying because of pain and then it's necessary to and the interpretation of the signals from the body and if there are other stress factors in a person's life at the same moment and sometimes if it comes like you say it what if this person has never had vagina pain and then all the sudden it's there then maybe there is danger to the tissue that maybe there is from friction maybe there is compressions so maybe after childbirth some part of the teacher has been compressed very much and is needing to heal if there's a tear from from friction and maybe there's an infection those are impossible acute reasons for the pain to just kind of show up there are so many different kinds of them of them any any whenever the mucous membrane is it means the lyrics weekend it's my react to number difference yeah so so icky here is not to jump too far and I know we're going to talk about this later but so to keep the mucous membrane health it's okay chronic leg most you know what what what's what's causing that from from the reserved the majority of the women it's either that's when it's chronic chronic and the pain is like a Turkish so there is Sensation that reaches the brain the brain interpret this as pain and in conjunction with pattern Association pain and healing and belief systems that kind of amplify the pain if I could volume dial that you turn off so the pain becomes worse and then the brain will always try to save the organism will always try to a reaction in response to that pain with is tissue where the pain is and the signals from the brain go there and tell the tissue to contract when you have decreased blood flow and all those things that make the whole Circuit of signals that go back to the brain feedback loop and what is kind of tricky with the price is that it might just decide overtime that okay I'm just going to interpret all kinds of Thanos from the vulva if that's the case has pains no matter what they are I'm just going to conclude this I said because this pain has been here now for so full time there so such a long time that I have to make the person I have to turn up the dial so that this is right for pleasure is simply your interpretation of pressure cuz everytime I like started to feel into them I would interpret it is pain and the one I had this awareness like I don't know when I can look at it as I literally like became more embodied in certain areas of my body because the way the brain interprets the signal by using no awareness I'm stroking I'm not stabbing with a knife you know what is actually happening so that impossible to make the crowd go away and you just need to feel safe enough to very much so which is the breast so whenever there is pain in the body the breast will kind of become held and when the body when the breakfast hell been in order for that to happen the body needs depends up the person's system of muscle that are connected to the breast so all the muscles in the Torso kind of is like a cylinder that kind of close down and so we have a cat in the bottom of her cylinder torso which is the the vagina pelvic floor muscle at the bottom cap and the top cap in relationship to breath is to try to swallow you cannot breathe in or out at the same time that's the way for us to close off and also if we clinch our teeth and put our tongue at the roof of the pallets with with cooler self together exactly exactly what happens when we hold the breath so we can go around the Joe and the neck and inside the throat which Center preventing or protecting ourselves from the pain so the ocean breath which is to breathe with a stye on the excavation and an open mouth it's doing it's kind of cool things the nervous system back into the parasympathetic mode which is to do with relaxation safety pleasure to have a continual contact with themselves by actually being aware of the breast and it helps them to to kind of break apart and putting the tongue up to the roof of the mouth and Tenzing the neck which then reflexively helps the public for lower floor relax Transmission in train me in it then gave me permission to share it with other people so thank you Karla if you want to learn more about me or some rest you had a beautiful book called The Ocean oshun breath when she describes how to heal that how to treat it in your experience working with women who have chronic do with the the causes and a little bit more about called that before we move into the treatment the person has had these are very long time most commonly they have a belief pattern around with a paid means partner they have a strong hair dyes or maybe they are single and they fear that they will never have a partner and be able to enjoy sex with their partner how much it ties into it becomes pretty begin their in their life and pencil a common it's reality and their own pleasure understand female ejaculation or the urge to ejaculate themselves and a mistake it for being just a need to pee so they're using their way too strong often how to prevent themselves from peeing during height and so that's further strengthening that cycle loved of pain and and also they don't know their own what they need in order to feel arousal and did you get full and blood flow throughout the whole able to explain to another person what they want or what they need and also to protect Foundry wow so like a disconnected like a inherent disconnect from their own sexuality and then because of that they they received you know tortures and whatever penetration before they're ready always do at the beginning is I have a conversation or the first conversation hour me to get clear about their beliefs of course and if they have any boundary issues or what are their relationships like nachos with sexual partners but also with other people in their lives are they able to test stand their ground in The Foundry and what about other health-related issues I don't feel really physical things like are they able to control the passing of urine if they need to are they also able to fully relax and when I sit down on the toilet is the pelvic floor so tight that it's hard to pee to that too pushy or not or actually I voluntarily relax so all these questions tell me what states that the police or muscles are in I always observed so you know I'm dealing with a person who I know has had sexual trauma at a young age I know that the trauma or the abuse happening at a stage in life where they were not as they were so young they were children so the ability to to escape to get out of the situation is very very weak and when you were talking because the power Dynamic is just so when I touch them I was taking what is it Me and the communication where we always try to help the person to become aware of the stuffing reactions that they are having that were most often not aware of, is to disconnect from the body more about about how you treat this and I'm curious to know how you how you I didn't want this to be conversation yeah so the treatment needs to be tailored to each specific person obviously because their histories are so different I could make a difference example that are really different when it comes to the women that are ready for reclaiming their relationship to their sexuality if that's part of the story we make this pain become chronic but they are disempowered they don't know their own pleasure they are not able to communicate to the practice because they simply don't know or even even sometimes they can still so too to help him with that since I know I'm not the one to awaken their pleasure Zone when they're in Tracy I think they need to do that themselves and I some how to meditate holding one hand on the heart and just be present with their breathing while they're having physical contact with their so that's that very profound for most people if they have kind of developed an aversion to their own sexuality using touch to release these areas of pain how important what I know about the pathways and how pay works in the central nervous system is that when you applied touch to an area that has that has paid so if you then dentist roll king without friction using coconut oil on the vulva and stroking very gently and reusing loving touch then if you're able to also use the tongue trick method of staying present which is meditation and also to use the ocean breast to make sure that you're still breathing and you're in fact of the breathing in a relaxed way and you can reprogram the way the brain is interpreting the sensations that are coming to it from the Boba in that very moment so that the the past that are already there can kind of be we we probably made reprogrammed using breath using awareness so that's what we call a somatic healing mainstream except with sexuality and there is no default kind of pattern as to where do you seek help and there's no guarantee that the helper will will set you with this kind of approach because it's still quite new in the health Society or health system how to treat these patients so it is a new orientation to new approach the idea of using pug that you're working in enjoy the experience pleasure in healing is medicine so and for them it's necessary to find a way to feel pleasure without having the nervous system go things usually means that we're going to have some penetration return to that state of high degree of arousal and pleasure and experience gain experience that they can stay there overtime without talking through the pain at the same time this area that was so painful before and you're translating the pleasure from the clitoris or another erogenous Zone another highly pleasurable translating it to the area that it's painful to reprogram that area I think that they are there they're just by his kind of lost or I don't know broken so it for them just to learn that they have exactly and it can be completed it can be wow and that body is broken it's simply doing its job been able to heal through overcome this type of pain what are they and what are they on the other side of that so these women are very very young or choking between the ages of 16 and so when they start treatment chip they're pretty miserable they do not have sex with their partner or they are pushing themselves to have intercourse even though it's excruciating the painful so they're kind of sacrificing their own pleasure in order to deserve the other person because I think they have to so they're very disempowered and feels very low self-esteem and then in the other end they know how to express their boundaries they know how to ask for what they need in order to and it changes their life completely Presley located where they kind of connected the pain to the fear that they will never have kids I mean it's so extreme so when you can take that away from their shoulders it's like that grow one meter longer in life is just so it allows like live on-air you can send it to Davy Davy were Tantra. 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